You’re tired of feeling like you’re living with a roommate rather than a spouse. Maybe you’re frustrated because somewhere along the lines you and your spouse grew apart and you no longer feel like you know how to get through to them. No matter how hard you reach out to your partner for affection, comfort and quality connection, it feels like they just pull away or distance themselves. You’re trying to find a way to feel like a priority again with your partner, to feel emotionally connected again and to simply enjoy spending time with each other. Unfortunately, you’re probably feeling misunderstood, frustrated, neglected, or unappreciated by your partner. Nothing you’ve tried works and you realize you can’t do this on your own anymore. You realize it’s time to call and set up an appointment with a couples counselor.
It's pretty normal that one partner in a relationship will be more eager to seek counseling than the other. It's important to recognize that if either person in a relationship feels like counseling would be helpful, it means something needs to change. Often times, couples struggle with expressing their unmet needs and couples counseling can be a safe and neutral space that allows couples to explore new communication strategies and explore emotions to more comfortably express their needs, wants and desires.
Many couples feel that they should only reach out for help when their relationships are in jeopardy but this couldn't be farther from the truth. I work with couples all the time who are interested in premarital counseling. These couples know the importance of learning how to prevent future conflicts, build stronger communication skills and a deeper understanding how to stay connected and attuned to one another's needs.
Don't wait any longer to kick start your relationship because you and your partner deserve to be happy NOW!
Issues I commonly address in couples counseling:
Life Transitions/Adjustment Issues
Effects of Past Trauma
Feeling Lonely or Confused
Should We Stay Together?